Then there are couples who did not separate amicably, and this can make co-parenting challenging. They have to communicate, see each other and navigate through parenting challenges while not really liking each other very much. However, as stated, it is important for the children that there is some harmony.
It can be hard to navigate how to get to a place of harmony, especially when there is a lot going on in anyone’s life. It has to be prioritized, and while there may not be one magic way to make this happen, there are a lot of tips that mom and dad can try to bring it all together for the children.
It Takes Courage
It takes courage on both sides to make sure harmony is a priority, and that is because both sides really need to let go. According to HuffPost, it is easy to hold on to what has happened in the past between you and your partner. To hold on to the anger, the hurt, and everything you think your co-parent did wrong. However, as long as you are holding on to all of those feelings, you will never truly be able to go forward with harmony.
If mom is wondering how she can just let it all go, she needs to ask herself one thing to put it all into perspective. She needs to ask if the negative emotions are serving her life purpose right now. If the answer is no, it is only holding her back, and she has no use for it anymore and should let it go.
Take A Pause
While it is important to find harmony, it is not going to happen overnight, and you are always going to run into roadblocks that can be challenging. According to West Coast Families, you are both still separate people, and this means that you are not going to agree on everything. What you do when this happens will be important. When you find yourself in a tricky situation, take a pause and reflect on what is going on. Think of the situation from your co-parent’s point of view, and ask them to do the same. If a decision does not need to be made right away, take some time to think about it, and come back to communicate it later.
Communication & Openness
According to Mediator Select, communication will always be important, and as you are going through this co-parenting journey, make sure the lines of communication are always open. Always keep in contact with your co-parent and give them a rundown of what your child is up to when they are with you. You also want to make sure that all big rules are consistent with each other. The big rules are the ones that can cause the most stress during a co-parenting relationship. If you and your ex are on the same page about those, harmony may come easy.
Sources: HuffPost, West Coast Families, Mediator Select